Connection Styles and Embracing Vulnerability

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Written by Tina & Michael LeBlanc

Individuals have preferred ways of connecting with their partners, such as physical touch or deep conversations. It’s important to understand and accommodate each other’s connection styles through open communication, to foster mutual respect and harmony.

About the Authors

Tina and Michael LeBlanc are, co-founders of Better Yourself 365, Licensed Counselling Therapists, Authors of relationship books, and a happily married couple. All of their services are tailored to busy, overstretched couples. Tina and Michael help couples work efficiently as a team by teaching them the essential habits to create a strong, loving connection.

Connection styles are preferences of how we connect with our partners. We often have preferred or ‘natural’ ways of connecting that feel more effortless, making us feel secure and fully engaged. Certain connection styles might align well with our partners, drawing us together initially. However, there are instances when these preferred connection styles don’t synchronize, leading to disconnection in the relationship.

They manifest in different ways—some prefer physical touch, finding comfort in proximity and intimacy. Others seek connection through deep, heartfelt conversations – connecting spiritually or emotionally. Others prefer to keep conversations lighter. And there are also those who prefer to ‘do’ things like go for a walk or play a sport. 

It’s important for couples to be aware of their partner’s connection style and consider adjusting their own approach to accommodate their partner’s needs at times. Having these conversations about these preferences is part of being in a loving, healthy relationship.  

We encourage you to reflect on your own connection style and create a list of activities or behaviors that make you feel particularly close to your partner. Engage in open conversations with your partner about what brings you a sense of relaxation and comfort.

During these discussions, it’s vital to approach each other’s preferences without judgment. There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong,’ ‘better’ or ‘worse’ when it comes to connection styles. Discover where your commonalities lie and acknowledge the differences.

Commit to respecting and honouring your partner’s preferences, just as you’d ask them to respect yours. This mutual understanding and compromise play a significant role in nurturing a healthy and harmonious relationship.

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Connection styles are preferences of how we connect with our partners. We often have preferred or ‘natural’ ways of connecting that feel more effortless, making us feel secure and fully engaged. Certain connection styles might align well with our partners, drawing us together initially. However, there are instances when these preferred connection styles don’t synchronize, leading to disconnection in the relationship.

They manifest in different ways—some prefer physical touch, finding comfort in proximity and intimacy. Others seek connection through deep, heartfelt conversations – connecting spiritually or emotionally. Others prefer to keep conversations lighter. And there are also those who prefer to ‘do’ things like go for a walk or play a sport. 

It’s important for couples to be aware of their partner’s connection style and consider adjusting their own approach to accommodate their partner’s needs at times. Having these conversations about these preferences is part of being in a loving, healthy relationship.  

We encourage you to reflect on your own connection style and create a list of activities or behaviors that make you feel particularly close to your partner. Engage in open conversations with your partner about what brings you a sense of relaxation and comfort.

During these discussions, it’s vital to approach each other’s preferences without judgment. There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong,’ ‘better’ or ‘worse’ when it comes to connection styles. Discover where your commonalities lie and acknowledge the differences.

Commit to respecting and honoring your partner’s preferences, just as you’d ask them to respect yours. This mutual understanding and compromise play a significant role in nurturing a healthy and harmonious relationship.